I'm currently redesigning my site ConnectingSingles.com and I would like to add instant messaging feature. Does anyone know where I can get a component (Flash or JAVA)? I used to program in JAVA a long time ago, and still remember some of it, so if I could find source code, then I could tightly integrate it myself. I've heard that Flash is better though (do you agree with this?) The disadvantage to me with Flash, is that I don't know it.
I'm looking for the cheapest, easiest, fastest solution. I would appreciate any advice.